Protecting correspondence means checking the whole route a message follows: the device, account, notifications, recovery details and any person with access. A new email address may still be exposed through a shared phone or recovery account.
Map where information appears
Consider lock-screen previews, synced tablets, cloud backups, shared calendars, postal statements and saved browser sessions. Note which channels you believe are monitored and which are simply uncertain. Refuge's technology safety guidance emphasises planning around the risk of technology-facilitated abuse. [1]
Tell the adviser whether attachments can be downloaded safely and whether appointment confirmations appear on a shared calendar. A neutral subject line will not protect an attachment already synchronised elsewhere.
Agree a controlled change of channel
Use a safer device where possible to discuss options with a specialist. Changing passwords or removing access may alert someone, so assess timing before acting. Do not assume clearing history removes network records or copies on other devices.
Ask the adviser to record your communication restrictions across reception, billing and case handling. If you change address, check where invoices and formal documents will go. First contact arrangements sets the initial instructions; safety before a legal letter covers disclosure to the other party.
Follow a document from sender to storage Consider each stage of an ordinary letter or attachment: how it is sent, which account receives it, where notifications appear, how it is opened and where a copy remains. A document may be private at one stage and exposed at another. For example, an email opened on a personal phone may also be available through a shared tablet or downloaded into a synchronised folder. Describe the devices and accounts involved to a suitable support professional without assuming that you must diagnose the technology yourself.
Include printed material in the same review. Post may be opened by another resident, collected from a communal area or sent to a former address. A printer can produce a document somewhere unexpected, and a discarded envelope can reveal the sender. These practical details matter when deciding whether email, post or another agreed method is suitable. The relevant question is who can encounter the information during its journey, rather than whether the subject line looks neutral.
Include the ordinary messages surrounding legal work Appointment reminders, payment receipts, identity-check requests and billing queries may disclose that advice has been sought even when the substantive correspondence is handled carefully. Ask the provider how your contact instructions apply to each of these functions. Explain whether a text message, voicemail or notification naming the organisation would create a problem. Staff handling an invoice may not know the arrangements agreed with the lawyer unless the organisation has recorded them for the relevant purpose.
Check third-party services used for appointments or document exchange before relying on them. Ask where invitations and password-reset messages are sent, whether a calendar entry is created and what happens if a delivery fails. Do not provide account credentials to an adviser as a way of solving an access problem. Instead, explain the limitation and agree a method the provider can support. If a relative pays or assists with technology, clarify exactly what correspondence that person may receive.
Plan changes with the possibility of monitoring in mind An account change can be visible through alerts, lost access or recovery messages. Where monitoring is suspected, discuss the timing and method with specialist support using a safer device or channel where possible. Refuge identifies technology abuse as something that can form part of wider controlling behaviour and provides a dedicated safety support route. A generic instruction to change every password immediately may overlook the particular risk created when the other person notices. [1]
Do not assume that opening a new account isolates it from existing devices or recovery arrangements. Explain how you would access it and what other accounts or phone numbers it would depend on. If evidence of monitoring or abusive messages needs preserving, raise that before deleting accounts or resetting devices. The practical plan should consider both continued access to advice and the wider safety situation. It should be based on the circumstances, rather than on an unverified belief that a particular browser mode makes activity invisible.
Confirm a replacement channel across active matters When a safe change is agreed, identify which organisations need the new instruction and how receipt will be confirmed. A family lawyer, a housing adviser and a court office may hold separate records. Updating one does not necessarily update the others. Ask how formal documents must still be served or supplied under the relevant procedure, because an informal contact preference may not alter every legal requirement. Explain any confidentiality concern through the process applicable to that recipient.
Keep track of correspondence expected during the transition, including decisions and hearing notices. An old channel should not continue receiving sensitive material simply because no one knew a change was required, but abruptly losing access can also cause an important document to be missed. Agree how pending items will be handled and who will check unresolved deliveries. Revisit the arrangement if living circumstances or device access changes. Protecting correspondence is an ongoing question of who can receive and retrieve information, supported by clear instructions and a usable route for necessary documents.
Frequently asked questions
Is private browsing sufficient protection?
No. It does not make a monitored device, synchronised account or shared network private. Discuss the actual access risks before relying on it for sensitive correspondence.
Can invoices reveal that I have sought advice?
Yes. The provider's name, payment reference or account correspondence may disclose the enquiry. Include billing and receipt messages when agreeing contact restrictions with the organisation.
Should I remove suspected monitoring software myself?
Seek specialist technology safety advice; changes can affect evidence and may alert the person monitoring you.
What if an old address appears in an attachment?
Tell the adviser before circulation and explain any sensitivity. Ask how the attachment and relevant original should be handled, rather than changing the file without a record.
Do safe-contact instructions need to cover invoices and appointment reminders?
Yes. Administrative messages can reveal the provider or purpose of contact. Ask how the instructions apply to reception, case handling, billing and any external appointment or document service.
Official sources
Sources checked: 9 September 2026. Check the linked guidance for subsequent changes.
General information only. The appropriate action depends on your circumstances and the applicable jurisdiction.
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